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About Family Mediation
What is family mediation?
Who is it for?
When can you come?
How does it work?
What about the children?
How can it help?
How much will it cost?
Who are the mediators?
Is it confidential?
What about the courts?
Other services
Quality Assurance

What is family mediation?
Family mediation is a voluntary process in which a trained, impartial third person (the mediator) meets with family members and helps them to communicate more effectively and to make their own arrangements for the future, particularly for their children.  Mediation can help to minimise conflict, improve family life and help to avoid long, painful and expensive legal battles.  Mediators avoid taking sides, making judgments or giving guidance.

Who is it for?
It is for all sorts of families: married and unmarried, younger and older, with or without children. Grandparents, stepparents, children and young people can all be included.  It is primarily for parents whose relationship is over – it is not about helping parents to get back together again.

When can you come?
Mediation can be helpful once communication breaks down. This may be:
• during, or some time after a relationship breakdown
• as a result of families re-forming
• when parents, stepparents, grandparents or young people identify there are communication and practical arrangements which need to be resolved.
Family mediation can help families to negotiate or re-negotiate arrangements.

How does it work?
Family members who are in conflict will be offered an individual, confidential meeting where information will be shared and options will be discussed. If mediation is appropriate, and your chosen option, a mediator will meet with those involved, usually around 3 or 4 times. Each participant will have the opportunity to talk about their concerns. The aim of mediation is to agree on practical, workable arrangements for the future, taking into account children’s views, needs and feelings.

What about the children?
The focus of family mediation is on putting children’s needs first.  Families can do this best by listening to them and trying to understand them.  Most of the local family mediation services also offer the option, if appropriate, of the mediator meeting individually with children to hear their views on the things that their parents have been discussing in mediation.  The mediator agrees with the child what they would like to have fed back in to the mediation process for their parents to hear.  This service is called ‘Direct Consultation with Children.’

How can it help?
Family mediation helps families to understand each other better and to plan for the future. It offers the service of mediators who help people to communicate, without taking sides. Mediators work with families without making decisions for them.

How much will it cost?
Child-focused mediation will be provided free, as will intergenerational mediation where the young person is still a teenager , but there may be a suggested donation for other forms of mediation, for example where all the participants are adults, or where an employer has referred a member of staff to us.

Who are the mediators?
They are trained professionals who have a thorough knowledge and understanding of the complexity of family life and of separation, divorce and family restructuring.

Is it confidential?
Yes. Parents can talk freely and frankly in mediation. What occurs during family mediation cannot be used in civil proceedings unless both parties want it to be or if there are issues regarding children’s safety or criminal activities.

What about the courts?Family mediation is available to help parents make arrangements without recourse to the legal process. However, if you go to court, even at that stage the sheriff can encourage you to attend a mediation service.

Other services
Family mediation has developed beyond the context of separation and divorce.  You might find it also referred to as intergenerational mediation, stepfamily mediation, homelessness mediation, and ‘all issues mediation’ (mediation of finance and property matters as well as parenting matters, following separation).

Quality Assurance


Code of Professional Conduct for Family Mediators


Practice Standards for RS Family Mediators 

 

How does it actually work?  Watch a short video:

If you think Family Mediation could help, but you’re not sure, just phone and ask:

01595 743859

If you are interested in using our service, you’ll be offered an initial one to one appointment with a mediator.  Talking things over face to face can clarify the issues and help you to decide if family mediation offers a way forward for you and your children.

Other mediation services in Shetland

Couple Counseling An opportunity to explore and address issues which may be challenging your personal relationship  01595 743913

Community Mediation A positive way of dealing with disputes between neighbours or others in the community  01595 743943    

 

 

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